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Discovering the term ‘alexithymia’ can be a revelation for those who’ve always found emotions perplexing. If you’ve ever felt at a loss for words to describe your feelings, or if understanding and expressing emotions seems like a puzzle, you might find the concept of alexithymia resonating deeply.


What Is Alexithymia?
Alexithymia is a condition where a person has difficulty identifying and expressing their emotions. It’s not about lacking feelings but rather about the challenge in recognising and communicating them effectively. People with alexithymia might describe their emotions in physical terms, like a stomachache when anxious, because pinpointing the emotional aspect is tricky.


Finding out if you have Alexithymia
Wondering if alexithymia explains your challenges with noticing, describing, and communicating emotions? Various screening questionnaires exist, and a preferred one is the Online Alexithymia Questionnaire, which includes 37 statements. This can help pinpoint where you might face the most significant challenges.


Learning to Communicate Emotions
Expressing emotions can be daunting if you’re accustomed to suppressing them or not recognising them at all. Therapy offers strategies to bridge this gap. Recognising body sensations can provide clues to identifying emotions. Visual aids, like emotion wheels or charts, can be helpful, as can alternative communication forms, such as visual means or metaphors. These strategies aim to simplify the expression of emotions, thereby improving relationships and reducing misunderstandings.


For those with alexithymia, understanding and conveying emotions can seem like mastering a new language. With appropriate support and strategies, it’s possible to achieve a deeper understanding of your emotions and enhance your communication and connections with others. Therapy offers a supportive space for exploration, learning, and growth.